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Submitted by dombh-g last August 10th 2007, 10:08 AM Hey this is my first post so plz bear with me.
since reading other posts on this site and realising how many people are/were feeling the exact same way as I am, I decided to pluck up the courage to come out to my mum. Ive been so worried about this for years as most of my family seem to be homophobic, especially my older brother who actually got arrested last year for verbal abuse towards a gay couple.
So, today was today and I was waiting ready for my mum to come home, knowing that my brother was working late, however she never arrived home on time, turning up a couple of hours later after being to the pub. So as I was building up to the big 'reveal', sitting in the chair by the door to make a quick escape just in case, my mum suddenly bursts out moaning and I quote, 'do you realise how camp you sound sometimes, can you start acting more like a man, god, you better not be gay'.
As you've probably realised, I completely lost my bottle and now don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appraciated.
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 Rowhide | | I agree with edfu, you should tell them, their views are going to change. Who knows you might be the thing wich actualy change their views. But how should I know, I haven't told mine yet. |
 grizzlybear135 | | Be strong and be what you are --GAY!!!!. Do yourself a kind turn this time and be proud of what your are, hold your head up high and tell your mother and get it over with. |
 Krazy_mickle | | i agree wth edfu aswell. and im sorry but i dnt think tht anythin will change their views. i told my parents bout a month ago nd its made my mum dislike gay people. my dads fine wth it mind. but you should know tht they will probly still love ya.. my mum still does, jst now she sees me as a "dissapointment" whn rely shes the dissapointment 4 not supporting my gayness. if ur family has a problem wth it then their not worth ur time.. yer shud tell thm whn ur redy nd if theyve got a problem wth thm tell thm where 2 stuff thier views! |
| edfu | | what ever happens you are not in the wrong, your not at fault. I dont think their views are going to change anytime soon, so there opinion will be the same if you tell them 2moro or in 5 years time. So you might aswell get it over with. It will also show you how much they love you. If they dont accept it they arn't worthy of having you around. |
| sanokazama | | Hey, you don`t need to tell anyone you don't trust or don't wanna hurt. Trust me, I know from personal experience. Comin` out could end up being the worst part of your life if you`re not careful. But the others have a point, too. |
 youcancallmebaby | | I understand where you are comming from being a counseler i have heard you views before, i think the best way to put what i am trying to say is that you are unique,, gifted, beautiful if ever saw ya'. I would like to personalize this note by saying WE, because you are not alone, and as We come together i am sur that you can get"it" up. to tell her, and if she is not okay with it or has a problem withit, you can work something out, i told my mother (won't tell father)she and i decided that while i lived in the house with her my father and impresionablle children, that i would be inactive, for that amount of time, try it, you may find the right guy for you at this time, and as a test, you can see if he loves you without sex, as much as with it. Reverend Mother Teresa |
| vonix | | i agree you should tell them
even tho i still havent told anyone =( |
 mark | | i also agree with edfu but then agin i dont because the reason i havent told my parents is because i am scared 4 my life and i mean i really think my dad will KILL me and i figure in 5 years i either be able to take him,out run him, or maybe i get luckey and hes already dead and ill only have 2 tell my mom |
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