Dear Readers,
I'm a gay male, and I was wondering if I should ask this cute guy in by biology class out, his name is Marcus. More than half the class thinks he's gay because he sings the girliest songs like my little pony and things like that. He's not a homophobe either so... and half the school thinks I'm gay and I was thinking that this could be my fourm of "coming out." What should do?
i advise you to be careful just because your gaydar is ringing dose not mean hees gay i have had a really bad experience with that i told a guy about my feelings and i got burned
Half the battle is knowing you are gay and wanting to come out. From that point on it is a formality that requires careful consideration as to how and when.
You don't say weather you a student in HS or college. Those are different environments. HS is the hardest to deal with for any number of reasons. When you come out in HS you have to deal with people you have known for years and many will reject you. Once out of the closet you can't never go back. People around you will know you are a queer. Some of them will be supportive, some indifferent and other outright hostile. The percentage of each group will depend on the local culture.
In HS you can get harassed particular by a certain kind of male. Sometimes it is taunting words like, "Hey Brucie what something juicy?" to threats like "You fucking fagot, You fucking piece of shit.". You can go to the authorities but sometimes it makes it worst. HS is a bitch.
Rape is also an issue if you are in HS depending on where you live. Sometimes when a guy comes out in HS he becomes the object of sexual fantasies by dominate males who are in my opinion are in serious denial about their sexuality. They often fit the profile of the bully who likes to intimidate other males. They will try to get you alone and force you have sex with them. My experience is that this kind of guy experiences pleasure forcing you to suck his cock or give him a hand job. Occasionally, there will be a guy who if he can get you alone will force you into submitting to anal.
College is totally different. You can be openly gay and almost no one cares. There is plenty of support both formal and otherwise. You can meet other gay males easily and enjoy both casual and committed relationships.
If you are in HS then wait to come out unless you judge that you are willing to live with the consequences. If half the people in school think you are gay and you are then sooner or later other gay guys will make a play. You could get lucky.
dont ever tell him that you like him befor he knos your gay , and make sure you can trust him , .... 2 weeks ago i called the boy i love at 1:30am drunk and confessed everything to him , and he told me he was straight even thoe my gaydar was pointing right toward him and now he wont even talk to me
you know, I would tell the guy that you like him before coming out in that way. If he doesn't like you it will probably be embaressing and then if he decides to spread it around it could get lucky. If he likes you or if he's gay then you could ask him out. I don't think that having sex on a first date is a good idea thoug, no matter how much people promote it or how hot it sounds. Because if he decides he's too insecure to see another guy and you break up, everyone knowing that you and him...ahem....did it won't help your life any.
Summed up: for gods sake be careful, their is too many "homophobes" to not be.
